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Showing posts with label parents. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parents. Show all posts

Thursday, May 28, 2020

These times are precious, yet so hard.

Hanging on a wall in my Father-in-laws home, a photo of him (top right) and
 his grandfather (Center). Both showing off their big muscles.
My Father-in-law had quite the physique in his youth.
 As long as I've known him, up until a few years ago he has always enjoyed lifting weights.
But now...
It's hard to see him wasting away as he is in the final stages of Liver cancer.

Rick's Dad will not be with us much longer. 
Cancer has slowly invaded his liver and now there is no stopping it. 
Last week he was allowed to spend an hour or so with his wife Joanne 
who lives in a nursing home across town. 
They were made to keep their masks on and were supervised by a staff person. 
Their children (My husband Rick, his sister and brother) were not allowed inside.
 Because of Covid-19, none of us have been able to visit Joanne in the nursing home...it's so sad!

The nurse took this photo from inside, as the 3 kids visited through the glass. 
 Love this family....my 2nd family

Their have been lots of visits from Waynes own children, Grandkids and Great-grandkids, 
He is loved by many.
 My sweet daughter.... his first grandchild, helps her grandpa to the chair

Wayne is an avid accordion player, 
perhaps that's where his grandson Gavin (my youngest) gets his musical talent !
 I'm sure Gavin will have this instrument figured out in no time at all.
 Grandpa wants him to have one of his accordions! Love the smile on Grandpa Waynes' face.

 Every goodbye is hard

Grandpa Wayne is video chatting with my oldest son and great-grandchildren, 
they live in the Twin Cities!

A Hospital bed was brought into Waynes home yesterday, for ease and comfort. 
It was endearing to see my husband, pick his dad up in the bed last night and scoot him to the top.
 Wayne was too weak to get himself situated.  
He is so loved by is kids, and daughters-in-law, we will care for, and love him to the end.



Tuesday, October 9, 2018

We're right where we need to be...


Hanging out with my dad during a recent hospitalization with Acute pancreatitis.


This post is not about Rick or I! 
It's not about self-admiration or pats on the back...

Rick and his mom, a visit at the nursing home.

...It's about coming to terms with the fact that our parents are getting old(er)
 and more dependent on us kids. 
We have the time to give and want to be with them, helping in whatever capacity we can.
It may take some planning and sharing in their needs as we all still work, and have families to care for as well. Our parents are worth it and deserve our attention and care, 
just as we once depended on them.
In the last year we have had two parents have stokes, one now in the nursing home. 
Two with Alzheimers/Dementia. One with liver cancer, and all 4 involved with multiple tests, 
ER visits and clinic visits and I cant go on without mentioning the many
invasive procedures with hospital stays. 
Luckily on both sides all of us kids take active parts in being there!
I won't lie.... it can be tiring, overwhelming, inconvenient and scary!
I'm thankful Rick and I are here in the same town as our parents.
I cant imagine growing old without the support of family.

Not many little ones still have their great-grandparent around. 
The kids visit when they can, and the great -grandparents love it.
(My dad with one of his 8 "greats", Scarlett)

Mom during a recent ER visit.

I'm so thankful we finally got my parents to the cabin last month

We're right where we need to be.

As it is now, all 4 parents are doing pretty well after a rough couple of months.
We continue to support them, be with them, call them and
 Love them in whatever ways we can.